Unfortunately 90% of human society is the same when it comes to unbeatable male egoism, which most people like to deny. Because the agency of many women has been removed, the deaths in natural disasters or war time invasions are fourteen women per one man. Many kindly, sophisticated races refuse to initiate a peaceful first contact and allow that sort of race any ground. So I can understand your concerns. Logic might be the way to go, though, but it's complicated when you got other cultures out there.